Want. A simple four letter word perhaps but for many people it is a curse!

From an early age many children hear “What do you want?” spoken in an annoyed tone as the child interrupts again. Others are taught it’s not “nice” to be always wanting something – be happy with what you have already.

As a result the adult has impaired thinking around the subject of “wanting” something. Maybe it’s not good to keep wanting things, a BETTER LIFE, A BETTER JOB, MORE MONEY. The result is far too many people putup with what they have and struggle to come to terms with achieving the greatness that is theirs for the taking if they only try.

During every seminar I’ve ever attended, most programs I’ve listened to the speaker states that only a very small percentage of the students or attendees will ever taken any action. Many internet marketers state that the bulk of their sales are to people who never even open the package. They are clearly striving for something and feel that by buying the next “fad” they will achieve overnight success without any work.

In the 6MProfit Method Lisa Diane teaches that it is imperative that to get what you want you must focus on what you want and not what you fear. I’ve known this for a very long time (some 20+ years ago I really wanted a TVR Sports car and spent all of my time really desiring this car, I had pictures on the wall and imagined I was driving one as I sat in traffic on my way to work – I’ll write more about this another time) and used it successfully without understanding the concept at the time. BUT, and it is a really BIG BUT, it is so, so simple to fall into the trap of worry.

With mounting debt, family pressures, health issues it is so hard to believe everything will be OK and avoid worrying about what might happen. It’s all very well saying to yourself “I must focus on the positive and the outcome I require” but when you wake up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat worrying about money and where the next mortgage payment is coming from it is not as simple as just saying – I am wealthy.

The way I used to get round this challenge (yes, I’ve woken up in cold sweats too) is to tell myself:

“If I knew, without a shadow of doubt, that I could achieve my goal to be debt free how would I feel and what would my life be like”. I found that that phrase removed the barrier to my success (i.e. the massive mortgage) and enabled me to focus on my goal and not the negative outcomes I was fearing. Admitedly it took some time of repeating the phrase to myself but sure enough each time I tried this method I shook of the demons and got back to sleep having relieved the worry.

Shortly afterwards I found myself restructuring my finances and now believe 100% in my success and ability to live a debt free life in the near future.

I now totally focus on what I want and not what I don’t want. The cold sweats are a thing of the past.

If you have experienced similar challenges and have a great strategy for changing your thinking please leave a comment.